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How to jump into bed on a first date

Last Update : May 20, 2019 by Sarah

It’s often seen as a challenge or a goal for many men trying to adventure themselves into the journey of Dating because of their desire to sleep with their date is there from the outset.

This approach is often much easier if the meeting is one of a sexual nature since both parties are in prior agreement to get together under the covers for casual dating.

In most situations, however, we need to use our most cunning and fool-proof seduction techniques to achieve this goal on the very first date and this isn’t a talent that everyone possesses!

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dating: How to choose the right girl

Some women (as some men) simply wouldn’t contemplate doing this so, first and foremost, to maximize your chances of getting her between the sheets with you, you must choose the right girl!

Obviously, you have to respect the wishes of the person you meet. So respect in the number 1 rule!

Having said yes, there are many girls that are actively looking for a no-strings-attached sexy encounter, so don’t worry, you’ve got plenty of chances!

Cunning ways to get laid on the first night

Get the place ready for your encounter

If you manage to get her home, after having had an aperitif, been to the restaurant and the cinema (all going without a hitch), and she agrees to follow you up for the famous “nightcap”, you’ll need to have everything ready!

This means that you need to get the basic sorted: a clean and tidy apartment. It might sound pretty obvious but you’ll be surprised to know how many men have left dirty underwear on the carpet…

The same applies to you!

To maximize your chances of success, you’ve got to prepare yourself like a professional athlete with impeccable shaving and hygiene, getting rid of rogue hairs as you go etc.

Your mental preparation plays a big part too, as you have to go out there feeling confident in that fact that tonight is the night and you won’t be coming home alone!

Be reassuring

To be intimate with a stranger you’ve only just met a few hours ago is both a very exciting and very scary prospect.

One of the things that might make a woman doubt, is definitely a certain sense of insecurity. It is an important step to understand for men. Sadly our society has been for years failing into securing the same level of security for both men and women when it comes to going out at night and feeling free…so be understanding and adapt yourself to her preferences.

Be respectful and honest, don’t insist too much and let it be natural.

How can you achieve that?

Talk about yourself and ask questions about her too. Show interest and be yourself.  Be honest about your intentions from the beginning.

Honesty can be incredibly exciting!
Do you want to sleep with her and you feel she’s also been flirting with you?

You’re in the right way…


Sexualize the situation

You must use your best seduction weaponry and attack with smoothness and precision … turn up the heat on the situation and make her want to go further – she must see you as irresistible!

Basically, for novices, here’s the drill:

  • Use body language: look deep into her eyes, touch hands, etc.
  • Stop the conversation and pay her a compliment (try to avoid the clich√© one about beauty, there’s so much more to see in a woman),
  • Maintain an air of uncertainty and honesty to keep the excitement flowing,
  • Sexualize the conversation – get right in there!

To go to bed on a first date, you have to get to the stage where you can make a sexual advance.

Don’t make any rude jokes as you’re bound to fail but instead, pursue a conversation that subtly tackles a subject concerning you both: the subject of sex!

Don’t say to her “let’s talk about sex” but approach the subject with humour and sensitivity.

You can tell an anecdote, talk about a show you’ve been to, a movie you’ve seen, etc. It might sound surprising to you, but girls (as boys), are more open than you might think to talk about sex.

dating: How to get what you want from the first date

You’re there:

  • Your apartment is clean,
  • You’ve reassured her,
  • You’ve talked about hot topics,
  • You’ve awakened the desire in your conquest,
  • You’ve had a few drinks and you’ve sexualised the conversation.

Now you can speak openly…

It’s time to tell her that you want her and this is the crucial moment… tell her how superb her body is, how her personality is so irresistible that you really want to finish the night with her. Make her feel it would be such a shame to waste such a hot atmosphere!

You’ll both enjoy the luxury of being desired (that’s the game)!

Don’t crack up because, if you beg her to sleep with you, you can be pretty sure you’ll be “sleeping” alone.

Since you’re a respectable, reassuring and attractive person, you should be set up like a George Clooney, which goes hand-in-hand with nights of pleasure. This is the time to use the last trick in the book by intensifying your approach to win her desire.

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